Sunday, January 13, 2008

A melencholy feeling

Yesterday at work, one of my favorite residents passed away.  She suffered from Alzheimer's disease.  At the end she barely talked,  coulden't walk, was getting contracted, had problems eating etc..  Her mind always seemed to be in a different place as she would smile and laugh at things unseen to me.  She was very peaceful and comfortable at the end.  When I went in there to say goodbye, her face had completely relaxed and she had a look of serenity on her face.  She used to be a school teacher, a gym teacher exactly.  She was the manly type.  Big, broad and probably loud!  A former student of hers said she was a great coach.  In fact, she liked to be called Coach.  I always wanted to be the one to feed her at mealtimes because I had little tricks I used to get her to eat.  Her family was in and I was able to tell them how sorry I was and give a hug.  ]

That afternoon at lunch time, one of the nurses got up and played the organ.  She only knows a few songs.  There is one resident in particular that loves music.  She also has Alzheimer's or some form of dementia.  She started clapping away.  When the nurse began to play Amazing Grace, the resident broke out in a quavering song.  No words but she went right along with it.  The smile on her face was beautiful, she lit right up!  Another dementia resident who was having a grumpy day perked right up and raised her hand up waving it along to the music.  Music is an amazing tool.  It can bring such emotion to people.  I heard Bocelli singing yesterday on a television program.  His voice resonated down the hall and made me want to weep.  So beautiful.  This is the song I heard.  Have a wonderful day...

Song in English:


I'LL GO WITH YOU (English translation)

When I'm alone
I dream on the horizon
and words fail;
yes, I know there is no light
in a room where the sun is absent,
if you are not with me, with me.
At the windows
show everyone my heart
which you set alight;
enclose within me
the light you
encountered on the street.

I'll go with you,
to countries I never
saw and shared with you,
now, yes, I shall experience them.
I'll go with you
on ships across seas
which, I know,
no, no, exist no longer;
with you I shall experience them.

When you are far away
I dream on the horizon
And words fail,
and, Yes, I know
that you are with me;
you, my moon, are here with me,
my sun, you are here with me,
with me, with me, with me.

I'll go with you,
To countries I never
Saw and shared with you,
now, yes, I shall experience them.
I'll go with you
On ships across seas
which, I know,
no, no, exist no longer,
with you I shall experience them again.
I'll go with you
On ships across seas
Which, I know,
No, no, exist no longer;
with you I shall experience them again.
I'll go with you,
I with you.

Song in Italian:

CON TE PARTIRÒ (Italian lyrics)

(Words and music by Francesco Sartori and Lucio Quarantotto)

Quando sono solo
sogno all'orizzonte
e mancan le parole,
Si lo so che non c'è luce
in una stanza quando manca il sole,
se non ci sei tu con me, con me.

Su le finestre
mostra a tutti il mio cuore
che hai acceso,
chiudi dentro me
la luce che
hai incontrato per strada.

Con te partirò.
Paesi che non ho mai
veduto e vissuto con te,
adesso si li vivrò,
Con te partirò
su navi per mari
che, io lo so,
no, no, non esistono più,
con te io li vivrò.

Quando sei lontana
sogno all'orizzonte
e mancan le parole,
e io sì lo so
che sei con me,
tu mia luna tu sei qui con me,
mio sole tu sei qui con me,
con me, con me, con me.

Con te partirò.
Paesi che non ho mai
veduto e vissuto con te,
adesso si li vivrò.
Con te partirò
su navi per mari
che, io lo so,
no, no, non esistono più,
con te io li rivivrò.
Con te partirò
su navi per mari
che, io lo so,
no, no, non esistono più,
con te io li rivivrò.
Con te partirò.
Io con te.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Music sure does hit home to folks in rest homes.  My mom used to love for me to take my guitar along when we visited here, and she'd go rounding up residents to come and hear her daughter sing.

Anonymous said...

God bless you Linda for being so good and kind to those patients. I know that would be a heartbreaking job to work amongst them. Helen

Anonymous said...

I am so glad you are a loving caretaker...I couldn't do it...I would become so attached to people....

Take care and many blessings to you Linda....

Michele

Anonymous said...

I'm very sorry for your loss.  You are so right about the music and songs.  Sometimes touching a place nothing else can seem to touch.  -  Barbara

Anonymous said...

so sorry to hear the news...  condolences to you and her family.  Music does touch the soul of all.
hugs
d

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry to hear you lost a patient you were close to ~ that has to be so hard.  I believe music soothes the soul.
Lisa

Anonymous said...

Aww that is just so sad...I bet it's easy to get attached to them when you see them almost every single day.  

Anonymous said...

That was lovely. Thankyou for sharing it with us. I am sorry she lost her battle.