Saturday, November 24, 2007

A very unhappy day...


What happened today at my Dad's could of been avoided, but was probably inevitable.  I brought Logan over there.  My Father has never acknowledged Logan or William for that matter.  He says Lindsay should be ashamed for having babies while she is a teenager and not married.  He has never seen either one of the boys.  I had Logan with me when I went to my Dad's.  I tried to call first and let him know I had him, but the phone was busy.  He probably would of said, Don't bother coming.  When I got there, he said come on in.  He looked at Logan and didn't say anything.  I told him I tried to call but the phone was busy.  My Father totally ignored Logan the whole time we were there.  He sat in his chair and wouldn't even look at us.  It felt very uncomfortable.  Logan had a toy and went over to show him and he ignored Logan.  He ignored that little boy.  Logan is only 1 1/2 yrs old.  How can you treat your own great-grandson like that?  I cannot fathom it.  I was so upset, I put coats on everyone and left.  I said goodbye to Nancy, at least she seemed interested in Logan.  My father said nothing.  He has always been very judgemental of other people.  He only speaks to one or two other relatives of his.  He is very critical of me too.  He really never praises me or says he is proud.  I did drag it out of him once.  He never offers to help me even though he knows I have a hard time financially.  He is so quick to judge other people.  I don't know why he is denying his own great-grandson's.  I am just so shocked and upset.  I was crying when I left and cried half way home.  I haven't called him and don't plan on it.  He will probably expect me to apologize for bringing Logan over there.  When Lindsay found out she was so mad.  She was threatening him with bodily harm.  I begged her not to do anything stupid.  She said she was going to call him and tell him off.  She is so angry at him anyhow for the way he treats her and the boys.  He has never really been a grandfather to her kids or mine for that matter.  So I am pretty upset tonight.  I don't want this to cause a rift in between my father and I, but I am very upset and I know he is wrong. 

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emabecmar said...

that is sad your dad has to be that way with those babies. I hope someday he realizes just how lucky he is to have grandsons. ((((hugs)))))

nightmaremom said...

awww Linda... so sorry... I feel so bad for those babies....   he could teach them a lifetime of lessons and stories....  sad so sad

cayasm said...

That's terrible way to treat you and your/his granchild, poor Logan would'nt understand he's only a baby, your right to be angry.
Unfortunately some of the older generation can be very shortsighted your father is at an age when it's important to have your family around you.
Well it's his loss



madcobug said...

I am sorry this has happened. Thing is those babies can't help how they came into this world. If I had grandchildren or g-grandchildren of my own I would just love them to death. Why should a persons pride overrule their love. I hope he can see his way to changing soon. Helen

bhbner2him said...

Oh, Linda, I am so sorry for what you went through.  I'm giving your dad the benefit of the doubt that his motives is that he wants the best and better for his loved ones and thinks by disapproving of certain actions he can drive them toward better choices.  But he is the one who looses.  And he doesn't realize that he's setting up the very values he hopes they embrace to be dispised by them because of his hardness.  Let those little ones be around those who can and do love them freely. And pray for your Dad that his heart not always be hardened.  And for those he hurts, that they can forgive in their hearts and move on.  

I didn't even know you had been posting!  I haven't been getting alerts on you.  Will try to fix that before I leave your journal.  

And thanks for playing the game.  ;o)  -  Barbara

tampa0503 said...

HOW AWFUL!!  Mean old Man!

Hey...YOU got me with that SnowBall!!  


tendernoggle said...

Oh Linda.....I am so terribly old is your dad??? May be that the generation that he came from has a lot to do with his actions...but either way, he should not take it out on an innocent baby. I don't blame you for being mad and hurt.....I have always said that your very own family can hurt you more than a complete stranger.
God bless,
love ya,

fowfies said...

I have learned that you cannot make someone be something you want them to be. My grandmother is a very old and bitter woman. I want her to be the grandmother I never had...even though she was always around, she was not really THERE. Like you would think lovingly like a grandmother would be.

Sometimes, it is best for the children that they not be exposed to people that cannot change and are mean and bitter, and as you say, judgemental. I am sorry that you have to deal with him being this way, but maybe it is best the kids dont know him.

Life is so short. If he wants to waste it being this way it is his choice, but he is missing out on so much joy and love. Too bad he cant see how he is.

chat2missie said...

I'm so sorry your dad acted the way he did.  Such a shame.  Hope your feeling better about it today.

wwfbison said...

Geesh, that is downright cruel to be mean to a little boy ~ he didn't cause any of this.  Maybe one day he will realize he is wrong.  Hope your feeling better today & enjoy your Sunday.

breakaway1968 said...

Found your journal through another journal and wanted to say  hi.  I was so sad reading your entry today.  How can ANYONE ignore a little 1 1/2 year old!  That is just  terrible...and he should know it's not that little boys fault at all!  This is just so sad!